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• Nicholas Christakis and Tom spend a good amount talking about grief. Not just between humans but many animals also express grief towards each other. Chimpanzees have been shown to reintegrate the grieving member back into the community. There was an elephant that found a dead dog and carried it back to its owner. Recognizing these biological commonalities between other species and us, could allow us to empathize more with each other.
• “No,” Holly finally interjects. “That’s not true. Not everyone can get this job. You have to pass the test.” The test? The Accutrac test? “The test,” I practically yell, “is BULLSHIT! Anyone can pass that test!”

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  • Holy shit. The disillusion followed by pack of empathy
• Personal experience of people struggling at MIT
• She views this as herself "stripped down" revealing her true self. I disagree. This to me is what happens when you put people through situations devoid of any humanity or compassion
• Had this great Longwave journal from April 17th, 2020

  • rambling incoming: I think self-forgiveness is an underappreciated concept. I don't know how universal this is but I spend a lot of mental energy setting large, small, or even micro-level expectations for myself and then falling to meet them. these compound into a lot of useless background anxiety.
  • "forgive yourself" has always come off to me as a meaningless self-care platitude. but accounting for your small failures and mistakes that have upset you — and probably only you — and then working through them from the perspective of both the wrongdoer and the aggrieved, can be worthwhile. the moment those two perspectives meet gives me a sense of peace that until recently I didn't have a name for, which made it harder to find. using the language of forgiveness as it occurs between people has given me a framework to do it with myself.
  • take a situation where person A does something to upset person B. when B asks A "why did you *do* that?", they are actually asking for an acknowledgment and an apology more than an explanation. in the same way, there are many times when I look back at a decision from earlier and ask "why did I do that?". self-forgiveness starts with the understanding that an apology, rather than self-resentment or an attempt at rationalization, is in order.